Signs a Married Man Is in Love With You

Signs a Married Man Is in Love With You

This is a very scrupulous topic. How to recognize when a married man is in love with you?

I know why you ask this question. Chances are you start feeling something for a man who has a family, and want to know does he have feelings back? Or is he just using you for sex?

Here are some tips for making sure a married man has feelings for you, without all the typical vanilla stuff.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

1. He DOES care but is not always available

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Simplicity is the seal of truth. If he cares, you can feel it.

Every man expresses his love differently. However, if he does care, you cannot mistake. But if you need proofs, let’s flip through a bit:

  • He’ll ask you how was your day;
  • He’ll be interested in how do you feel and offers his help if you need it;
  • He’ll be anxious about your health, your emotional balance;
  • He’ll worry about how well do you sleep, how much do you walk, how comfortable you are;
  • He’ll be interested in your work, who do you spend time with;
  • He’ll be there for you if you need it.

Of course, with married men this part alters a bit. He cannot always come to your place when you need him, because he has a family. If his family is only a formal part of his life now, and he’s planning on/is going through a divorce, he’ll try to carve out more time for you. The more dates you have, the more attached he becomes, and the more time will be left for you in his schedule.

However, if he’s not planning on leaving there, and only using you, there will be no attention from his side except for the time when he needs you to fulfill his desires.

Therefore, the next point is coming naturally from the first one.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

2. He makes plans about leaving his wife

He makes plans about leaving his wife

There is one little “but” here. Making plans does not equal telling you about making plans. If a man intends to do something, you’ll know this from his actions. He’ll sign a request for divorce, managing property issues, custody, etc.

If he only talks about leaving his wife, 99% of the time, it’s just a pious claptrap (empty words).

Signs a married man is in love with you:

3. His behavior changes around you

His behavior changes around you

When any man is in love, both married and single, they usually have a crush on your body, fired up by your personality. In other words, they catch a particular “vibe” which they find attractive.

According to many recent pieces of research, falling in love has nothing to do with our rational portrayal of people who we might find attractive. Instead, we feel a connection with a person who “produces” the same kind of “vibes: that we used to be around when we were kids; and in presence of which we felt secure and loved.

It’s a complex issue. What I intend to emphasize here is that when a man feels such emotional connection, they’ll want to spend more time with you, just as irrational desire. In many cases they use the same flirting techniques: he’ll play his best, throwing around his trump cards trying to get “score.”

His behavior will be different when you’re around. He will do and show things that demonstrate his masculinity, acts like he doesn’t fear anything, or some men can turn on their “macho” behavior.

The biggest question is, does this all fade gradually after the first night? If yes, then of course, he’s got what he wanted (in his case, out of boredom or to try something new) and will now disappear unless he finds you extremely talented in bed and will want to drop by occasionally from time to time.

However, sometimes a married man can develop feelings for another girl. It’s more rare, and in this case, he won’t disappear without a reason.

Therefore, we’re coming up to the next point.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

4. He DOESN’T disappear without a valid reason 

He DOESN’T disappear without a valid reason

If you only interest him in terms of sex, he’ll vanish each time he needs it and appears whenever it’s convenient for him.

If a married man is in love with you, he won’t leave without a reason. He’ll be maintaining contact even if he cannot immediately come to you. A man in love explains every absence because he feels like he owns an explanation. He respects you and treats you accordingly. In any other case, he won’t find it necessary to report to you about his whereabouts.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

5. He opens up and shares

He opens up and shares

Signs a married man cares for you include him keeping you updated with the important events taking place in his life. Whether it is an occasion that is related to you or something that may have happened to him during the day, the first thing he will do is to message or call you and tell you. A married man who has decided to be with you and wants a serious relationship will be discussing all kinds of events.

Ok, he may omit to talk to you about his latest dinner, but he’ll share what excites him or makes him happy. Men especially love sharing good news, talking about things they’ve purchased, like a new car, or a new laptop.

A man who is ok with a serious relationship will plan a future with you and share his ideas. He will ask questions so he can learn about you and your future plans. The conversations you have will be more exploratory and give you two and your relationship room to bloom. If his marriage is about to end, he’ll go to great lengths to fasten the process.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

6. He makes you feel secure

Men are naturally protective and make sure that you feel safe and secure with them.

This includes him taking taxi cab so you can get home safely, making sure you feel good during sex, cooking or ordering dinner for you, expressing his thoughts and concerns about your lifestyle or people you’re with (in some cases it’s a rational view), worrying about you hanging out with girls for too late, letting you live without worrying about how much do you spend, and so on.

Depending on his abilities, he’ll make you feel like you’re behind a stone wall.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

7. He prioritizes you over others

This guy will make the most of every opportunity he gets to meet you or talk to you. He will do so because he considers you special enough. A married man is mature and responsible and takes his pick wisely. If he is choosing you over other important events and people, then this is your chance to take it as one of the signs a married man cares for you.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

8. Jealousy comes to the play

As much as with single guys, a married man who has plans for you will express jealousy if you give it a reason.

Clearly, a guy who likes just one-night-stand with you, won’t pay much attention to who you’re sleeping with in your “free time.”

Reversely, a man who has feelings for you won’t be glad to hear you’re spending time with your unmarried male colleague over a glass of wine.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

9. No stupid compliments

He may find you funny, cute, call you some innocent and lovely nicknames, come up with jokes and mock you in a kind manner.

He’ll do everything guys do when they have a crush on someone, despite the fact that he’s married.

You’ll find yourself in a sweeping romance aka honeymoon stage. Usually, men reach this point being in marriage when things are far more than bad in relationships with the wife. They may be on the verge of breaking up, and you’re only the final brick.

Touching

No, he won’t grab you or take your arm as though he owns you. It only scares off. Instead, he’ll touch you gently, occasionally, or ask permission for holding your arm. It can happen out of the blue, and you’ll like it.

Smiles and gestures

Another one of the signs a married man cares for you is the classic signal of smiling. Does this man look at you a lot? Does he smile when you are talking?

No dull compliments

This point deserves attention. If a guy uses you for sex, we’ll make a lot of compliments, and you’ll feel like throwing up at times. They may seem obscene, ugly, straightforward. He may throw hints here and there.

When a married man is in love with you, he won’t make compliments much, especially straightforward. Yes, I know men who flirt this way, but they’re really rare, and I feel sorry for them. It’s the most dull way to try to make someone like you.

In all other cases, a man can make heavy-handed compliments if he only sees you as an object of desire. Compliments that rush over like glitter at a parade is either this or a sign of extremely bad upbringing. Both cases are not what you need.

Those poor men who choose this strategy and actually like the girl, cannot even imagine that this sort of thing doesn’t tell you find her beautiful: it tells you find it a miracle that she went out with you at all.

Signs a married man is in love with you:

10. He looks good for you

A man who is in love will try to look his best when he meets you. He won’t pull over a tuxedo and get a fancy haircut, but he’ll look decently attractive, even if in simple clothes.

Signs a Married Man Loves You – FAQs

Below I’ve answered the most frequently asked questions.

What are the signs a married man is in love with you?

Married men are usually careful about confessing their love for a woman they are not married to. However, some of the clear signs they do give away include: the efforts they make to get noticed by you, being inquisitive about your love life and whether you are looking for someone, finding reasons to talk to you, and trying to become your hero every chance they get.

Does a married man mean it when he says he loves you?

It truly depends.

The story of your relationship, the obstacles under which you met, his personality. But in 70% of cases, a married man lies when he tells you about love. Because a man who is staying in a marriage and is preparing for a divorce usually cannot understand his feelings himself. Besides, love is not a feeling; it’s more a deep connection between people that is developed in a 5th, 6th year of living together.

What happens if you love a married man?

There is nothing wrong about loving a married man or any man for that matter. Love is not a feeling that comes to you when you decide for it to. It happens naturally, and you have all the right to love anyone you want.

However, you may want to consider a few things before you fall in love with a married man. It all depends on your personality and values you share. Surely, you cannot engage in a relationship with a man who has a family. It’s not just bad because you make harm, it’s also poisonous for your mental stability. Being a mistress is not a cool thing, it doesn’t give any satisfaction.

In fact, you can only choose this path if a man has made a decision to break up before he met you. In this case it means their marriage is over, and you have nothing to do with it.

Can you get a married man to fall in love with you?

It’s truly a bad idea to force anyone to like you.

Does a married man ever miss you?

Whether or not a married man misses you is solely dependent on the kind of relationship the two of you have. Men are less prone to develop emotional connections, in other words, they may hold “friends-with-benefits” status with you and feel all right.

Falling in love with a married man is controversial and something you may not want to indulge in. However, in many cases loving a married man who loves you back and wants to progress with the relationship the two of you have is ok, if he is already in the process of divorce, or his relationships ended before he met you. The only way you can understand the genuineness of your chemistry is by observing his behavior when he is with you, and not letting emotions cloud your judgements.

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